How to Stop a Bully

How to Stop a Bully

Inspirational : Steve Jobs

Inspirational Video By Steve Jobs

Inspirational : SaiBaba

Sai Baba Inspirational : Sankalp mein bahut badi shakti hoti hai 

Inspirational

Would you like to take advice of these 3 billionares

Are you Assertive ?

The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong | Amy Morin | TEDxOcala

DESTRUCTIVE BELIEF THAT HOLDS US BACK
1) Unhealthy belief about ourself
We tend to feel sorry for  ourself its ok to be sad but self pity goes beyond it
Self Pity goes beyond being sad ( it keeps you stuck) : start magnifying your misfortune .... keeps you focussed on prob... keeps you from finding soln of problem. even if you can find soln you can make your own or someones life better, but u cant do that when you are hosting your own pity party.

2) Unhealthy belief about others
We think other people can control us , and we give away our power.
When you say "that person is not nicest" : but still its your choice how to respond.

3) Unhealthy belief about world
We tend to think that world ows us something. We think if i put in enough hard work i deserve success. if it doesn't happen we tend to be sad.

Secret to be mentally strong is "to give up your bad mental habits". If you want to be physically strong goto gym , give up junk food.

1. Make up good habit like gratitude 
2. Give up bad habits like resenting others success... Only person you need to compare to , is the person you were yesterday.

You have to believe you can change it.... You are not destined to be doom.

Good Read

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-do-swot-analysis-yourself-why-you-need-one-andy-molinsky?trk=v-feed&lipi=urn%3Ali%3Apage%3Ad_flagship3_feed%3BnNhxesIiciE5zhqB%2BNX1hA%3D%3D&lipi=urn%3Ali%3Apage%3Ad_flagship3_feed%3BhJfPDM5ySVeLP4uUAjpDlA%3D%3D

https://www.forbes.com/sites/lizryan/2017/07/16/ten-ways-people-will-hold-you-back-if-you-let-them/#2d5c93ec29f1

TEDxOrangeCoast - Daniel Amen - Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

 The fact is...

• When your brain works right you work right.
• When your brain is troubled , you have much more likely to have trouble in your life.

non healthy brain (toxic env , not healthy diet) is leads to people which are not happy , not smart,
you loose 85,000 brain cells a day , you can accelerate or de-accelarate your brain growth based on your behavior.

What hurts your brain?

• high BP
• diabetes
• SAD diet
• lack of excercise
• ANT : Automatic Negative Thoughts
• Brain injuries
• Drugs
• Alchohol
• Obesity
• Smoking

What Enhance Brain Health

• positive social connections
• New Learning
• Great Diet
• Sleep
• Excercise
• Physical health
• Mediation ANT killing

Whats better than Mediation For your brain ?

its gratutude... Write down everyday just 3 things which you are grateful for , and you will see significant difference in level of hapinness

Overcoming hopelessness | Nick Vujicic | TEDxNoviSad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6P2nPI6CTlc

Even if you are in a situation , for which you are not responsible or you just landed into ... you have a choice

1. either be ANGRY for we don't have , 
2. or be thankful for what we do have

Other people are not discouraging to you , you are discouraging to yourself. You need to take feedback but filter it. Don't let it discourage you.

What's more bad "unsuccessful" or "unsuccessful and given up hope"?

How complaining rewires your brain for negativity

Motivational : Arnold Schwarzenegger

Motivational video

Good Books

http://www.businessinsider.com/favorite-books-entrepreneurs-and-ceos-2017-6?IR=T/#the-definitive-book-of-body-language-by-allan-and-barbara-pease-6

Good Read
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/how-smart-people-handle-toxic-people_us_5945b362e4b0940f84fe2f39

 

Mark Zuckerberg CS lecture

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFFs9UgOAlE

Tips

https://insight.kellogg.northwestern.edu/article/four-tips-for-persuading-others-that-your-idea-is-a-winner

1) Let audiences know what they are missing : not just benefits
MY :- adopting HVR is a great move , but we are missing to reap its benefits
It is more effective, Nordgren says, to pitch the innovation instead as a potential opportunity lost. That’s because we feel the pain of loss more acutely than the pleasure of gain—a concept known as “loss aversion.

2) Give points of comparison :
Decisions aren’t made in a vacuum. A fundamental mistake people make when trying to sell a new idea is forgetting to create points of comparison... savings , give decoy options ,

“You want to present people with legitimate alternatives,” Nordgren says. “But the point, of course, is to draw most attention to the idea you want to pursue.”

3) Let people experience the benefits : ex free HD channels

4) Win over a critical mass : “First, try the idea out on people who are favorable,” he says. “You want to be able to go to the key stakeholder and say, ‘four of the five directors have approved this,’ or, ‘we’ve successfully tested an early version.’

Note that winning over a critical mass may not happen overnight. When selling an idea, Nordgren suggests patience is key. So instead of rushing immediately to the key stakeholder—the person who could kill the idea or help it materialize—Nordgren recommends securing easy wins along the way.


http://www.inc.com/magazine/201703/kimberly-weisul/inside-job-innovation.html


https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/13-things-you-should-give-up-want-successful-zdravko-cvijeti%C4%87?trk=v-feed&lipi=urn%3Ali%3Apage%3Ad_flagship3_feed%3B6QpuvdASp9eahRG6b%2FdDNQ%3D%3D